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Kaftans, always

My lovely and talented friend, Sandria, recently alerted me to Veronique Hyland’s NY Mag article, “How to Get Your Body Caftan-Ready for Summer.” Although I disagree with the author about a few points, mainly that wearing a kaftan means you can skip your bra and neglect basic hygiene. WTF. I do agree with her enthusiasm for kaftans and her desire to extol their virtues.

Here are a few of my own tips for wearing kaftans and some amazing ones that you can buy right now.

  • Kaftans are the true definition of GLAAAAM-OOOUUUURRR. They are not shlub wear.  They are not for the tired. Find a muumuu for that foolishness. If your breasts are natural and you will go OUTSIDE wearing your kaftans, always, ALWAYS wear a bra. If you normally shave, keep it up.
  • When it comes to kaftans, as you might guess, I lean toward the fancy. Silk for breakfasts, brunches, lunches, dinners, cocktail parties, etc. Cotton for more active daytime activities.
  • Go ahead and splurge on a designer kaftan. You’ll have it, and actually be able to WEAR it, for years.

Post beach romp.

LemLem $340

LemLem kaftanMissoni Mare $1010

Missoni Mare kaftan

TWO $370

Long Peach Kaftan with Fringe TWO


Garden party, cute & flirty kaftan realness.

The Row $1636

If you can pull off this color, this is a very versatile, enter-level choice. With the right accessories, it can be avery chic lil’ number.

The Row Kaftan Bergdorf


Day drinkin’ and ready for whatever.

ASA Kaftan $245

I ignored at first because she didn’t offer silk kaftans. She’s seen the light.


ASA Kaftan front

Cavalli $1700

Cavalli is the king of kaftans.

Roberto Cavalli kaftan


Evening stuntin’.

Camilla $600

This one’s a chameleon. Camilla is the best about giving you options.

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Camilla $570

Camilla Kaftan Bergdorf

 

As you can see, there is a kaftan for every occasion, personality and style. Pace yourself while shopping. Kaftan addiction is real. You’ve been warned. dd

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Twelve Random Tips for Planning a Luxury Vacation

Greetings! It’s been a long while and a lot has happened, so instead of explaining, I’ll just jump right in.

Last year I took the first real vacation (no laptop, no phone calls) that I’ve had in years.  Because I’m Daphne, I know no other way than to go big, so I splurged on a whirlwind  ten days in Asia. My trip began in Bangkok, marinated in Phuket and then ended in Hong Kong.  To sum up the experience in a word or two: fairy tale.

Welcome to Hong Kong!

Welcome to Hong Kong!

Some deets: In Bangkok, my sister and I took a private boat tour down the Chao Phraya, toured Chinatown by night and sampled a little street food (not nearly as much as we would’ve liked). Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on perspective, our time in Bangkok was packed with sightseeing so the best dining experience we had ended up being at our hotel, The Peninsula. I’m dying to go back soon, be able to take my time and get all Anthony Bourdain with it.

In Phuket, we lodged at the Trisara aka Heaven on Earth, rented a mini yacht for the day for some island hopping and partied at the newly opened Nikki Beach. We didn’t have to go far for excellent food (Poo Nim Phad Phong Ka-ri, Trisara’s curried crab was unbelievably good!), but we did manage to tear ourselves away. One of the best dining experiences was at the Siam Supper Club – good food, good wine list, hot Aussies.

Hong Kong was pure fancy schmancy. From the overwhelmingly beautiful view from the suite at the Four Seasons to Michelin-starred French truffle overload and Chinese decadence,  I was just blown away. Man Mo Temple, Victoria Peak and shopping occupied us for the remainder of our time.

Cruising along the Chao Phraya with our guide, Tim, and my sis.

Cruising along the Chao Phraya with our guide, Tim, and my sis.

Planning a trip of this magnitude was labor intensive. When I decided to expand to include Hong Kong, I knew that I needed to call in reinforcements.

BONUS TIP: I know it may sound old school, but I worked with a travel agent who specialized in luxury travel.

Our agent was also a member of the Virtuoso network which afforded us complimentary amenities at some of the world’s most exclusive resorts and hotels.  In addition, working with an agent gave me representation I could use to press for even more free goodies. However, even though I worked with an agent, I checked and re-checked every detail. I was able to negotiate rates and receive several free upgrades because I was armed with so much information.

High atop Hong Kong's Victoria Peak with my sis. We also decided to bring a lil Rachel, Tracy, Kate, Tory, Gucci and Givenchy.

High atop Hong Kong’s Victoria Peak with my sis. We also decided to bring a lil Rachel, Tracy, Kate, Tory, Gucci and Givenchy.

Only one is necessary and this clear Tory Burch number was perfect for keeping up with everything I needed for a day of sightseeing.

Only one is necessary and this clear Tory Burch number was perfect for keeping up with everything I needed for a day of sightseeing.

I learned a lot planning this trip that will help me in the future and will hopefully help you as you plan your next sojourn.

12.  Like I said, research, research, research and then research again.  Leave nothing to chance.  Make lists, whether written or mental, of things you’d like to do or attractions you’d like to visit.  Sure, it’s your vacay and you don’t want a detailed agenda like you’re still at work.  BUT, mark my words, lack of planning will only lead to possible missed opportunities and not being able to take full advantage of everything that is available. Trip Advisor is good for many things, but when you’re planning a true extravaganza, Luxe City Guides and Louis Vuitton are great resources.

11.  Get help.  I am aware that some people love a challenge, even during their down time.  When it comes to my vacation, I am not one of those people.   I am not interested in seeing if I’ll throw my back out while schlepping heavy luggage to and fro.  If you’re like me, you’d rather have a lovely gentleman meet you as you step off the plane,  grab your carry on, expedite you through customs, collect your checked bags, load them into a luxury vehicle, open the car door and then hand you a warm towel and a bottle of water, as he whisks you off to your destination.  Firms like Abercrombie & Kent can arrange for private tour guides, valets and chauffeured cars. An agent who knows her shit, should be able to hook you up. Leave the stress at home. Just pay for the help. It’s worth every damned cent.

10.  I flew Cathay for this trip and was very impressed. Business and first class are very comfortable due to a pod-like quality and fully flat seat that make you almost feel like they’re no passengers on your plane.  The food was tastier than I expected and the wine list was good.  The flight attendants were very attentive and only had to be told once to keep the champers a’coming. I give them a pass because they were probably unaware that one person could drink that much.

Six hands rubbing all over my baaaaaaaawwwdddy. Yeah, this happened to me. No, that's not me. :/

Six hands rubbing all over my baaaaaaaawwwdddy. Yeah, this happened to me. No, that’s not me. :/ No pics valuable of me in this state of ecstasy.

9.  Leave the workout gear at home.  Unless you’re one of those people who lives to shred, why fat shame yourself on your own vacation? Pack fly, but loose-fitting ‘fits. Refer to #7.

8.  Mo’ massages, mo’ betta. I love a good massage and nothing says vacation more. Despite the fact that I almost missed my flight back home because I was in such a massage-induced, limp state of delirium,  I am so happy that I managed to book the Jade Stone Therapy massage at The Spa at Four Seasons Hong Kong. It should be a requirement before any long haul flight. I could go on and on about it because it was one of the best NORMAL massages I’ve experienced. However, I was spoiled by something I had experienced only two days before.  I say something because I’m not even sure it can be called something as limiting as a massage – Trisara’s Six Hand Massage. Yeah, that happened to me and I’m not really sure humans are equipped to receive that kind of pleasure.

Mrs. Roper ain't got shit on me.

Mrs. Roper ain’t got shit on me. A Debauchee original, a beautiful silk kaftan I bought in Bangkok’s Jim Thompson House, Roopa Pemmaraju, Missoni.

7.  Pack more kaftans.  There really isn’t much more to say about that.  Just do it.

6.  Take advantage of every opportunity to do anything you would normally never do.  Hong Kong is such a glamorous city and because of my research I knew that I could go all out as far as fashion. In other words, I had the perfect excuse to wear my see through tee with a sequined skirt with train. No biggie.

5.  There is no such thing as too many swimsuits. Bring ALL of them.  Even though you will likely settle on two go-tos that you’ll mix, match and wear daily, it’s still good to have options. My sister learned the hard way that it isn’t so easy for an American body to find a suit in Thailand.

4.  Stay at the Trisara as long as your wallet and free time can afford.  If you don’t know Trisara, google it, make reservations and thank me later. This is where you go when you want to truly get away and be pampered. I only saw other guests when I went to the Sunday Jazz Brunch (best brunch I’ve ever experienced and I’m a brunch connoisseur) and a beach barbecue.

Boats and heaux. Sorry I couldn't resist.

Boats and heaux. Sorry I couldn’t resist.

3.  Yacht like your life depends on it. But seriously, in this part of the world, sightseeing by boat is a necessity with its floating markets and secluded beaches. If it comes down to a budget choice between a boat and something else, choose the boat. You won’t regret it. We took the Phetmanee out for the day and enjoyed a lovely breakfast, snack and lunch on board as we island hopped around the Andaman Sea.

2.  Always, ALWAYS sleep with Aussie Daniel Craig lookalike who asked you to sit with him at the bar of the swanky and delish Siam Supper Club. I know. I know.

1.  Use the lounge. Why sit amongst the teaming masses and their unsupervised children in hard seats? There’s a very nice room with waaaay fewer children, comfy seats and “free” liquor.

This vacation was what some would call a once-in-a-lifetime, bucket list trip, but I refuse to limit myself and I don’t plan on dying any time soon. I’d much rather have more of these experiences and I will allot my money accordingly. However, as a debauchee, it’s so hard to set limits. I just can’t get enough. but I’m itching to get somewhere new. Where should I go? Got any tips for me?

I’ll holla. Peace. dd.


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3 Shades of Charlotte Olympia

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Though I have never nor will I EVER read the book, Charlotte Olympia has forced me to inadvertently participate in the 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon.  I ignored the nods to the pathetic bible of the sexually repressed soccer mom when it first jumped from iBook squarely onto the runway.  I ignored it all (it’s that debauchee rebellion in me) even though the trend caters to all my fashion sensibilities.

Side note: It’s just so boring.  Didn’t we already do this with 9 ½ Weeks?  Would these women be so geeked if they knew Christian or whomever would turn out to be Mickey Rourke?

The influence was almost impossible to shake with all the black lace and black leather and strappy see-through-sexiness from Jason Wu to Versace to McQueen.  All of these things are things I happen to LOVE, but I refused to enter into the shades of fray.  That was before my life was forever changed by the burgundy Dolly suede platform with ankle strap.

In its infinite genius, that shoe combines two trends that I approve – burgundy and shades-of-greyness with the ankle strap that screams French maid sexy time.  There are so many ways to wear them and I have approximately three options here.  There’s something here for every body.  So, charge up your ereader, pull out your credit card and let your freak flag fly.

Shade 1: Dolly | ASOS Curve body con midi dress |golden lace cuff

Shade 2: Dolly |sheer turtleneck | DKNY leather skirt | DVF gold belt

Shade 3: Dolly |white blouse with black trim | Lafayette 158 leather skirt

And the Jason Wu ‘Daphne’ clutch …well, the name says it all.

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Dining en Blanc

I participated in my first flash mob.  No, I was neither singing nor dancing.  I mobbed in the manner I mob best – by eating.  Le Dîner  en Blanc converged on the grounds of the Art Institute for its first dinner in Chicago last Friday.

As the name suggests, white was the theme.  All white everything from the tables, chairs and tablecloths to the picnic baskets, suits and frocks.  So since I love a theme almost as much as I love a surprise, I donned my first pair of white shoes since lace ruffle ankle socks and Easter speeches.

The way it works is that members are only told a neighborhood meeting/’harmonization’ point and what to wear and bring.  Normally, members bring everything, but I cheated a little and rented a table and chairs and purchased food and wine from the organizers and had them all waiting for me at the venue. As you can imagine, daphne does not schlep well.

Led by a table leader who was in on the secret, groups from all over Chicago met up, set up and ate and drank the night away. It was a lovely evening and a great flip on the overdone white party.  I can’t wait for next year’s le dîner .  I’ll know what to expect and although the outfit most definitely will change, the shoes will remain the same.  Decent looking white shoes are hard to come by.

Check out some of my pics and more professional ones from Chicago Magazine.

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Six White Dresses for All White Everything

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

slip dress | one shoulder stunner | this dress | anchor’s away | winged wonder | goddess maxi

So it is said that Monday, September 3 is the last day of this year that white can be worn unless maybe you’re a nurse stuck in a uniform time warp.  Although I normally won’t let anybody who’s not contributing to the daphne debauchee wardrobe fund tell me what to wear and when, I’ll play along.  You look kind of dumb in January wearing a white cotton eyelet mini-dress with your snow boots.

So as the official end of summer nears and that awesome three day weekend approaches, you might have been invited to a BBQ or two.  Oh and I absolutely mustn’t forget the oh-so-original white party.  Tangent time: I just don’t get the whole white party thing anymore.  I’m not against them.  I even attended a kind of white party last weekend.  However, if you really want to impress me, throw a grey party.  I love the color grey, but that is neither here nor there.

Anyhoo, it’s your last chance, so whiten up by taking a gander at this homage to all white everything.  If you order now, like right now and with express shipping, you can probably have these white dresses before you hit the harbor for that Labor Day ‘yacht’ party.

 

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fringe benefits / they jinglin’, baby

I really love fringe and I’m blaming 80’s Stevie Nicks.   Each strand of fringe waves hello as you approach and shimmies goodbye as you depart. There’s a look-at-me quality.  Fringe is very easily the spirit fingers of clothing detail. What’s not to love?

Since I’d prefer not to look like an automated car wash or a Hair extra, I have to choose my fringe wisely.    Judicious use of fringe is the hallmark of a person whose fashion sensibilities are firmly planted in the here and now.

So the fringe I choose and that I love most is attached to my handbags. However, all fringe handbags are not created equal.  Only a few are deemed beautiful enough to receive debauchee approval.

Fortunately, there is no reason to fret.  There are some truly inspired offerings available to right now.  The best of which are Barbara Boner creations.  I dub her the princess of fringe. This woman knows my heart and I think I love her.  Well, I KNOW I love her fringe bags.  Check out hers and some others that make me jingle.

Barbara Boner Fringed Calfskin Tote | Acne Laurie Black Fringed Shoulder Bag  | Barbara Boner Atlantis Fingers Textured Leather Clutch | B-Low The Belt Twiggy Handbag | Barbara Boner Ginger Multi Fringe Leather Clutch

 

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the bigger the better

Giant bags as a fashion statement may be so eight years ago, but I am still captivated by their allure in 2012.  I don’t feel right unless my bag is knocking merchandise off the tables and hip checking passersby as I examine possible new bag purchases at Dose Market.  Hell, I gotta lotta stuff.

I love me some them.  What do you think?

Clockwise from the right: Reed Krakoff ‘Gym’ Leather Tote / M Z Wallace ‘Metro-Large’ Nylon Tote / Bottega Veneta Nero Patchwork Intrecciato Nappa Lido Bag / Bottega Veneta Shadow Intrecciato Nappa Convertible Bag / Cast of Vices Corner Store Leather Tote / Acne Piers Tan tote / YSL Cabas Chyc Leather Tote / Givenchy Antigona Tote

 

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Step Right Up! Pay Attention to the Crazy Chick!

via Buzzfeed

Kate Upton is not fat. You know it. I know it. Men know it.

So why are several members of the media insistent upon sending a site run by an obviously unhappy, possibly deranged person a deluge of page views? I assume that we are so thirsty to fill the quiet with noise that we will make anything news worthy.

Back in my day, we simply ignored the crazies of the world. We surely didn’t grant them a bigger audience thus validating their insanity. Do you ever remember your mom grabbing your hand when a nut walked by and saying, “(insert your name here)! Look at the crazy man! Listen to what he has to say!” I think not.

I can hear the well-meaning dissenters. “Oh, daphne. That’s irresponsible. We have to confront these pro-anorexia sites so that young girls are not affected.” Please. With the majority of American women wearing over a size 12, it is apparent that no one’s paying this dumb site any mind, but the media and a handful of wackadoos. Yawn.

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Anti-Fashion Love. Pass me a catsuit.

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